I want to talk about something that has been on my mind for sometime. I wasn’t sure how to address these thoughts, but it is something that I find important as I slowly rebuild my life. I want to talk about intimacy. Let me make this clear; I’m talking about emotional intimacy. This is something that has had a huge impact as a result of my injury.
I know how Erika and I found this emotional intimacy in the past. We would hike a mountain and sit at the top and enjoy the view as I gave Erika a big kiss on her sweaty forehead. Simply walking down the street and holding each other hands. Getting a great big hug when getting home after a long day at work. Getting on our bikes and chasing each other as we ride through the ASU campus and finishing the ride with a couple of beers and good conversation at our favorite brewery; Four Peaks. Sitting on the couch and sharing a bottle of wine and talking about our days and or anything else that may come to our minds. Backpacking seven miles up a mountain and sharing the last sunset of the year as the sky lights up in this bright pink and orange, I wish I could describe the awe of the sunset we watched a little over a year ago. All these activities gave us the feeling of being connected to each other.
I want to describe what I see as emotional intimacy. It is the spark you share with your partner. As you share the same space you can feel the electricity from the other person. It is the same feeling as the moment you first laid eyes on the other person. It is the same as feeling you partner’s energy. It is the feeling the differentiates a friend and someone you are in love with. I could go on forever trying to describe this feeling because you know what I am talking about.
This intimacy I have gone on about is something that we are searching for. Like everything else in my life I have to find new ways to do just about everything and our emotional intimacy is included. It is such a great feeling. I am not sure what it is going to take to find the things that give us the intimacy we desire. Just like my passions in life we need to all new ways to feel connected to each other.
I don’t have any recommendations for you, but I would take the time and enjoy those things that let you feel connected with your partner. I would say that feeling of intimacy is one of the best.